May 05, 2019
Many people dismiss the power of belief because they confuse it for wishful thinking. Wishing that you get a raise without doing anything different is a delusion. Having the belief that you can get the raise if you work on developing your skills and push further than you have before, that's where you find success.
Without believing in yourself, you will never tackle a challenge big enough to get you where you want to be. Look at people more successful than you. Do they really have something that you don't? Can you find someone more successful that has less of what you have? Of course you can.
Most of the people that attain success in life aren't geniuses or especially gifted. They only had the determination to stick to their goals and figure out a way to get where they wanted to go. What's stopping you from doing the same?
Start dreaming big today. The big goals are often easier than the small once.
Excuse is a desies that festers the more you use it. With every excuse you make for yourself you train the habit. Soon even simple things become excuse worthy.
The four most common types of excuses are health, intelligence, age, and luck. Each one of them can grow to overshadow any activity in your life, but combined they can make you lose everything you've worked hard to achieve.
If you need any motivation for getting rid of an excuse, just look around for someone who has accomplished more than you in a worse condition. It's easy to find someone that's handicapped or old -- by societies standards -- but still extremely successful. Is your condition really worse than theirs?
When it comes to intelligence, you are probably putting too much emphasis on the wrong kind of intelligence. Knowing many facts or having a high IQ won't make someone successful. Nobody wants a walking encyclopedia, besides a game show. What counts in life is having the ability to come up with ideas and make them reality. Too often intelligence is wasted on figuring out why things will fail. Instead, bring right attitude and dedication to figuring out how to make things work. You will be amazed what you can accomplish.
The worst excuse of them all is luck. It's so ingrained is society that many of use it subconsciously. We refuse to act because we attributes the success of other's to luck. Your coworker didn't get a promotion over you because of luck. Take the time to look for the real reason behind other's success and you will find a path to the same. If we just drop our egos, we can learn from everyone around us.
Stop using these excuses to get out of doing the hard work. Get to it and make your life what you want it to be.
We let many things hold us back in life. The most potent are the negative thoughts we produce in our own mind.
Communicating with others is one of the most common fears. Many people are intimidate by day to day interaction because they believe others to be better than them in some way. They worry that they can't connect to others because the difference between them is too great. They proceed to make it worse by constantly replaying their past negative experiences, and delaying taking any action.
This fear simply miss placed. We are much more alike than we think. Everyone just want to be happy, healthy, and support those we care about. This is a level everyone can connect on.
When you feel this fear or any other, don't compound it by your negative internal dialogue. Instead of thinking of the negative experiences, think of positive once. Use these experiences to build up the confidence to take the action that will make the situation better.
Act with confidence and you will gain confidence. Give others honesty and care and you will receive the same back.
Our thinking habits stem from the language we use. It can make the difference between us being stuck in the current situation or moving forward towards a better one.
Positive thinkers see the opportunities that are waiting for them tomorrow, not the troubles of today. They aren't concerned about the small issues that pop up daily. They are too busy building and improving towards the future.
This type of thinking allows them to get involved in bigger projects. Because they are forward thinking, they can see outside their immediate sphere. They realize that helping those around them will help themselves too.
Work on shifting your thinking so instead of worrying about not having enough, you are thinking about how you could get more to satisfy your need. The world is prospering. There is no shortage of possibilities around you. You just have to be brave enough to go after what you want.
Traditional thinkers are quick to shut down new ideas. They believe that the status quo is so because it's the best idea, not because it came first. In their eyes, change could only make things worse.
Creative thinkers approach every day with a fresh perspective. They ask "how can I make today better?" "How can I accomplish more than I did yesterday?" The unconventional methods these question prompt move people ahead of their peers -- above the norm.
Asking questions starts the brains thinking of new ideas but the ideas can't come from a vacuum. No matter how brilliant you are, you will run out of original ideas sooner or later.
In order to keep moving forward you need to stimulate your brain. Learn to listen more than you talk and surround yourself with people in your field and outside it. The people in your field share approach and solution to problems you are facing. The people from other fields trigger radically different ideas. If you are to succeed in long term creativity, you need to listen to both.
When you are primed with inspiration from different angles, you can start the next day with better answer to: How can I be better today?
Before others treat you the way you want to be treated, you must learn to treat yourself that. If you want to be respected, you must first respect yourself. If you want an important job, you must treat your current job as important.
In fact, you rarely have control over what other people may think of you, but you do have control over your thinking and your actions. By thinking about yourself in the right way, with respect and importance, you appear the same way. You start to exude positivity. It becomes infectious to others. They become more positive around you too, starting a cycle that lifts you even higher.
Here are a few suggestions for how to improve your outlook:
Appearance of someone successful. When you look better, you feel better. That
feeling translates into thinking and actions that are sharper than when you feel ashamed of how you look. Don't allow yourself to waste mental energy on worrying about petty things that can be easily fixed.
Start every morning on the right foot by pumping yourself up. Give yourself a pep talk before you head out into the world. It's easier to act your way into thinking than you think your way into acting, so take the action of being positive before anything can effect your outlook.
Have a role model that you can look up to. When a tough decision comes along, ask yourself "What would my role model do?" When you have to make a moral decision, as yourself "Is this something my role model would do?" Use this as a sanity check to make sure you are moving in the right direction. The more decisions you make that alight with where you want to go, the closer you will get to your destination.
Your environment doesn't only effect you physically, it can have a tremendous mental effect as well. You subconsciously pickup many habits and queues from people you spend your time with. As Jim Rohn said "You are the average of the people you spend the most time with."
You need to take this impact seriously. Especially when looking at your workplace, since you spend as much as half your waking hours there. If you work on a team full of negativity, you need to get out. Otherwise, you will inherit that attitude and lose all your motivation.
Make sure you spend more time working with people that are successful driven. These types of people won't shoot down your ambitions or try to find flaws in your approach. They will try to support and provide constructive advice that will get you to your goal.
This group works best if it's a mix of people that are more successful than you, roughly the same level as you, and lower level than you.
The more successful people serve as role models and examples. They weathered many of the challenges you are coming up to. So they can provide warnings or guidance.
The people at the same level as you act as partners. They are going through many of the same challenges. So they are great for dealing with current affairs.
The people lower level than you are an amazing source of inspiration. They are still leading up to the challenges you are facing now. So they serve as a reminder of what you've already overcome. Mentoring someone also makes for a great way to give back to the world.
You should bring the growth attitude to you personal life as well. If you spend time with the same people or in the same place, your mind grows stale. Mix things up in your free time. The world is full of possibilities, embrace as many as you can. They will become a source of inspiration and energy for the rest of your life.
No matter what the day brings, put on a smile and try to find the good in the current situation. Once you get your body into a positive state, by smiling, your mind follows. Then you can turn a gloomy situation upside down. Every fool can prosper when things are going well, but it's the brilliant people that find the good in the worst situation.
When others do a favor for you, notice it. It doesn't take much effort for you to address them by name and acknowledge the importance their work, but it could change their whole day. Then they are more likely to remember you and treat you well in the future.
The world doesn't have handouts very often. You will only get where you want to go by showing initiative. If you want that promotion at work, demonstrate that you have what it takes to do the job. If you want to keep a customer around, treat them better than anyone else will. This may cost you in the short run, but it will pay off in dividend over time.
When you think negatively of others, it throws you into spiral. You go from a remark they just made to judging them about the cloths they wear, the cars they drive, or the job they have.
This way of thinking leads to nothing but a negative environment all around you. You can't be happy because you are too busy being upset by all the flaws you see in that person. Then to make things worse, you will ooze negativity the next time you meet them. This could damage an important friendship or make your next day even worse.
Instead of going down this spiral every time someone makes a mistake, remind yourself of the good qualities this person has. Nobody is all bad or all good. It's not them that drive how you perceive them. That is 100% your choice.
If you can't find the positive right away, take some time to listen. After all, you have 2 ears and one mouth, so use them in proportion. Finding the positive isn't the only advantage you gain by listening, you also make the other person feel important. People want to discuss their thought and interests. Give them the time to do so and you will gain more than insight, you could gain a friend.
If you never start you can't find success. People come up with countless reasons for never starting a task, a project, or even their dream. They will claim the conditions aren't right, or that they don't have enough time. They don't realize that this attitude puts them into a trap of never getting anything done.
The only way out of this trap is to take action. Even if it's completely mechanical. If you want to start writing, sit down and write about anything that pops into your mind. Eventually you will discover ideas coming about the topic you wan to cover. If you have an unpleasant task, like chores, that you dread doing, just start on it without thinking about how much you dread it. Before you know it, you will accomplish it.
Taking action moves you to the doorstep of success, but there is always the inevitable failure. This stops most people. They see the single setback as a sign that they aren't cut out to continue.
The few that succeed capitalize on the obstacles they encounter. Instead of back down, they learn and get up with renewed energy. They find a way to turn every negative into a win.
If you want success, it's as simple as these two steps. Take action on your goal, and learn from every mistake you encounter along the way.
Setting a big goal lights up the journey ahead. Although you can't achieve a big goal quickly, you can use it to guide the small decision that will bring you closer. Any time you have to make a decision, you can ask yourself: is this getting me closer to my goal? If the answer is no, then don't do it.
Making the big goal not too specific also allows you to navigate to it through all the winding turns of life. Don't set a goal like: at 30 I want to be the CEO of this company. This puts far too many restrictions on you. Instead you can set a goal like: I want to be an executive sometime in the next 10 years.
This approach gives you much more freedom. You loosen the time restriction to any time without that time frame. You open up the possibility of moving to another company if it brings you closer to your goal. You even make the goal achievable in more than you way. Instead of needing to be a CEO you can be any form of executive. These looser constraints make the goal possible.
With a realistic long term goal in place it may seem an overwhelming challenge to plan all the way to it. The good news is, you don't have to. Take it one experience at a time. Do the best you can on the assignment you were just given. Learn something this year that will serve you in the future. Meet someone that achieved the next step in your journey. All these are small that you can plan for day by day. Before you know it they will compound to get you where you wanted to go.
To be successful in anything, you must direct your thoughts towards progress. If you become satisfied with the status quo, you will never make things better. You won't even keep things the same, for long. The world is always in motion. Don't let it pass you by.
There are two important skills that help with this mindset.
Treat everyone around you as a human. They all have something good to give to
you. It's up to you to be curious. Find what makes everyone around you unique. What are they better than you at? Then you can grow your appreciation for them and your teamwork will become greater than the sum of it's parts.
The people around are critical to your success, but you must plot your own course through life. And there is no way to do it besides think. You must take time out of each day for solitude. This time lifts the fog from events that occurred and from yourself. It creates the perfect time to decide on a path forward before the business of life comes rushing in.
When you treat other well and allow yourself time to analyze, nothing can stop your forward progress.
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